My ex-husband's father died, should I send flowers?

I haven't spoken or seen him in almost 10 years. We were married young. me 20 him 22. we were only together for 5years married 3.5. He has been married since our divorce. She is 20+ years older than him. I live in a different state. We have mutual friends that told me about the death. I am getting mixed signals of what I should do. Any advice?
My ex-husband's father died, should I send flowers?
i would send flowers. it's not like anyone will be angry with you for sending flowers to a funeral. it's a kind gesture to a mourning family. no undertones.
Reply:10 years, no talk.... no flowers, nice card will suffice
Reply:that would be very nice of you
Reply:If you guys are still friends and talking, I would send flowers.
Reply:i would definitly send flowers
Reply:Put his name AND his wife's name on the card with your condolences. That way you show respect for their relationship as well as respect for his loss. It leaves NO room for misinterpretation.
Reply:Is there a charity designated in lieu of flowers?



Were you close to his dad? If so then yes, acknowledgment makes sense. If not, then maybe not. Personally, I don't think it's ever improper to acknowledge the passing of a person who touched your life.
Reply:how did you get alone with your ex's father-in-law? I would think it would be best, because think of the good things and moments that you share with him (ex father-in-law). This is your way of paying your respect to him. that is my opinion.
Reply:If not flowers then a nice card. You were once a part of his life and it would be very kind to send a token gesture of sympathy.
Reply:What does her age have anything to do with it?



I just found that strange?



I mean my friend is 25 years older then her husband and he loves her to death and I now am currently dating a totally educated man whom is very handsome and I am ten years older then him.

Honey age is just a number depends on how you take care of yourself.

Anyway no you should not send flowers you where just a distant memory that he or his dad probably dont even remember.



Move on.
Reply:It would be a nice jesture. There arent any type of rule on this type of thing...so if it makes you feel better and you and the inlaws were close...I dont see a problem with it. My husbands ex GF mother died of breast CAncer...and he sent flowers
Reply:a man that you used to call 'dad' died.



you figure that one out.
Reply:Definitely send flowers. It is the right thing to do to show respect to some one who was, at one time, your family.
Reply:Yes......show your respect ifyou thought highly of him
Reply:how did u feel about the person that died

dont worry about all the other crap

if u r sorry he died then send flowers
Reply:This has nothing to do with her. Do you think you are a threat to the new wife? Do you have kids together?



Send the flowers unless you thnk you are a homewrecker.
Reply:Leave it be. If you both have moved on and it's been over 10 years, leave that chapter in your life closed. Don't open old wounds. Pray about it %26amp; ask God to keep them, but you, don't look back.
Reply:Just send a condolence card and leave it at that. The new wife will probably throw a fit if she sees flowers from her husband's ex-wife.
Reply:Its common courtesy to do something of that magnitude. I'm sure that your ex will have nothing to say if you do this and probably will appreciate that you care.
Reply:It would be a nice gesture. But if that is too much a nice card would be good as well. It is about celebrating and remember your former father-in-law's life and not your divorce. I am sure you ex would appreciate the sentiment.
Reply:You shouldn't be having mixed signals if you genuinely liked/loved the father of your ex....personally I would send them....I would even go.
Reply:Yes..of course. It's a sign of respect for the father.
Reply:No
Reply:If you had children with your ex, then Yes because that would be your children's grandfather. If you had no children then it is your call. I mean did you adore the man when you were married to his son? Follow what your head says to do. I bet if you sent flowers, people would really think that it was very nice of you to remember and it also shows a lot of class.
Reply:Send the flowers if that is what you want to do. It is no one elses business.
Reply:If yall had children together then for sure yes??????even if you do not its a nice thing he was your fatherinlaw at one time it just shows what a good person you are
Reply:Why not....Someone who was once part of your life has passed away. It shows respect %26amp; common courtesy towards your ex %26amp; his family. Look, it shows you care %26amp; that is it, nothing more, nothing less. So, send some flowers with you love %26amp; sympathy.
Reply:Just send a sympathy card. Just say that you were sorry to hear about the passing of their father and that you offer your sympathy to the family. When people are grieving, it is always helpful to have kind words, even from those who are no longer a part of our daily lives.
Reply:Sending flowers is never wrong. You'd be sending them to the funeral, not to your ex.
Reply:Yes you should!!!