I just lost my dad in Jan. do I send flowers or card to mom in April for 56 wedd. anniv? Please advise.?

Send both. YOur mother is well aware that your father has died. You didn't lose him, he died. He didn't mean to die, he just did. Honor your mother's feelings for him by acknowledging the anniversary...it is kind, it is joyful, it is loving. Take her out to eat alone, not a crowd. Share with her your memories...bring him back for a moment. Tell her what BOTH meant/mean to you. That is the kindest gift a child can give...love and acknowledgement. You are a kind person to think of this.
I just lost my dad in Jan. do I send flowers or card to mom in April for 56 wedd. anniv? Please advise.?
I wouldn't send her an anniverary card but a "Thinking of you" card would be appropiate along with flowers. Your mother will think she has the most wonderful, sweetest and caring child in the world and she does!
Reply:I think you can't or shall I say shouldn't take advice from anybody else, do what your heart tells you to do.!!!
Reply:i think it would be nice to cheer her up, i lost my dad 6 years ago, and trust me, the worst thing you can do is try to forget it like it never happened. I wish you the best.
Reply:you could but on the card put like from heaven or somethin so she thinks they are from your dad.
Reply:I would send flowers, but keep in low key...no roses or anything like that...pick something special...like an african violet or something unique and on the card write

something from the bottom of your heart letting her know that you miss your dad too and you're thinking of her.
Reply:It would simply remind her of her loss. Allow her to remember their anniversary as she wishes in private. She needs to begin the transition away from having those annual reminders of what was. Maybe take her out or go somewhere on her anniversary. Don't say that's why you're doing it. Just try to take her mindoff of it. Good luck.
Reply:please check with hallmark, they make a card for every concievable thing. your mom is not going to ignore the anniversary and neither should you. im sure hes gone but not forgotten and anything you do out of love is forgiveable no matter how its looked upon...
Reply:Of course you send your mum flowers, mums are allways glad of flowers!
Reply:It is ridiculous to celebrate the birthdays and wedding anniversaries of the dead.
Reply:If you feel like this is something you want to do then yes do it. If it were me I would do it.
Reply:She will only have that on her mind.

SO yes.

If you cant be there, at least you are showing her that she is not alone in remembering what a beautiful couple they were.

It would be considerate and thoughtful.

A good marriage should never be forgotten.

Especially if it made you the person you are.
Reply:take your mom out to dinner or cook her dinner it will mean alot to her.
Reply:I would just send maybe a "just thinking of you" card or maybe you and her could go out for dinner and watch a movie. Just be together for one another. You could prepare a little scrapbook of memories for her. I did that with my mom. I started it with their wedding pics and then proceeded from there. Like wedding pics and then pics of my sis when she was a baby and them my baby pics and then pics of us together, then pics of the whole family. Turned out really nice.
Reply:i wouldn't, but it depends on if she still thinks of him being with her in spirit, she might appreciate the thought, but you can send them and not tell her what they are for,so that she can view them in any way she likes
Reply:I'd say it might be a little soon. If you live close to your mom, I would say be with her. Maybe you and her can start a new tradition of spending the day together with dinner and shopping or something, just to show her that even though her partner and best friend has passed away, she's not alone.
Reply:NO
Reply:Wow. I think flowers would be a little to celebratory ya know? I think a card telling her that both you and your father love her...and that you miss him too, and are there for her would be just the right thing, i dont think either one of your parents would want the day to go unrecognized.
Reply:u did a pretty nice job. helpoed your mom out. wit atleast a smile which u brought at her face... keep smiling.. take care....
Reply:Don't send a anniversary card,it will be a tough day for your mom why not send her a thinking of you card instead
Reply:Send flowers because it would let her know that you are thinking about her.
Reply:If you are accustom doing that, don't stop. However, if you are not living far, i think what your mom would really need more than ever is company and lots of laughter with the rest of her family. If you are not a only child get the rest of the gang together and give her a day she wouldn't forget. If it is just you alone book a reservation in a nice resturant and take her out to eat, i know if i was her that is what i would treasured.
Reply:why not? Just send her flowers but don't designate it with an anniversary card or anything.