Is it right to send flowers to ex's dying mom?

the break up is recent, 2-3 weeks and we are not talking as he needs time to heal he says. In the meantime he found out that mom who has been ill for a long time is dying. is it ok to send flowers and a card to her? I dont want to intrude or have him think behind that gesture there is a second motive, I respect his decision, however I would like to send her flowers to make her happy and to thank her for welcoming me at her home during the holidays.

What would you do? have you ever been in this situation and whats best to do?
Is it right to send flowers to ex's dying mom?
Yes, you should do what feels right to you. It would be a very nice thing to do and should not be seen as anything other than what it is.
Reply:Has anyone established if this is a he or a she. Every other answer is he, she , she , he. Oh well, yeah send the flowers, and post a pic up!
Reply:I don't think anything is wrong with it. If you developed a somewhat of a friendship with her what's the harm. But you still must maintain a distance from the ex. As long as you're doing that, I don't see any problems.
Reply:DEFINITELY A YEEES
Reply:do what you feel in your heart.....send the flowers...make her smile!
Reply:Yes of course. You knew her because of him, but that doesn't mean you only talk to her when your talking to him. It will make her feel happy and cared for, end even maybe help heal his heart a little knowing you care for his mother even if you two don't feel well towards eachother anymore.



I would send flowers, or at least a card, to anyone i knew personally if they were dying, even if they were someone i did not get along with them well.
Reply:if you and her were close and then i saygo for it
Reply:YESS U MUSTTT.... SEND FLOWERS TO SHOW U ARE A GENTLE MAN AND TO BE SUPPOTIVE,,, its an important momento more sirious than any stupid relationship... be there for her..
Reply:I would definately do this, if you don't it looks really bad on your part. And if he has a problem with you doing that, then he's a real piece of crap anyways. There's nothing wrong with making a dying woman happy.. What woman doesn't like getting flowers. Go for it and if he has a problem with it, who cares your not doing it for him, your doing it for her!
Reply:Definately..it's the right thing to do.
Reply:Absolutely send flowers. They will bring her peace and a smile. He will appreciate knowing that you are a caring person regardless of whether you all are a couple or not.
Reply:I would send the flowers. It just might make her day and I really do not think that he would be mad about it.
Reply:Yes definitely, I think it would be not only proper but humane to do that. She would so much appreciate that at this difficult moment of her life. Don't withhold good from people. Doing good is never going to count against you. Never mind what he thinks. Write her a personal note saying how much you care and think of her. He will know you are being nice to his mother. That's very thoughtful of you.
Reply:I think you do need to send flowers
Reply:send a card, dont write who it's from on the outside, so he wont ever have to know. unless she tells him of course.



flowers aren't going to make her happy, she's dying. the card is a nice gesture, thanking her for opening her arms to you. don't make the card sound like a goodbye card. maybe get a "thinking of you" card.

Flowers would remind me of a wake or funeral...probably not the best thing for her, unless you know she has an absolute favorite kind